Psychologist reveals 3 signs your partner is manipulating you



A psychologist has revealed three signs your partner is manipulating you to keep you from leaving, from gaslighting to financial control and isolating you.

Birmingham-based psychologist and author Dr Lalitaa Suglani, who offers courses on topics such as managing anxiety, overcoming fear and imposter syndrome, took to Instagram to share information on the subject in a recent video post.

She accompanied the video with a caption: “Ever felt like you couldn’t trust your thoughts because your partner insisted you say something you were pretty sure you didn’t say?

“And how often do you end up saying sorry, even though you know you did nothing wrong?”

She continued, writing that manipulation can be so sneaky that “we don’t even notice it’s happening.”

A psychologist has revealed three signs that your partner may be manipulating you to stay in a relationship with him or her

She listed the three ways a person can manipulate their partner into staying in a relationship, saying, “Number one is gaslighting.

“This involves manipulating someone into questioning their own perceptions, their own memories, and their sanity.

“Abusers may use gaslighting techniques to make their partner doubt their experiences, leaving them feeling confused and insecure about leaving.”

She also mentioned isolation, which she said is when your partner “can isolate you from your family, your friends and other support networks.”

This, she said, is intended to “control their access to help or information, making it more difficult for them to leave the relationship.”

Elaborating on the video, Dr. Suglani said, “Number three is financial control.

‘Here they can control all their partner’s finances, making them dependent on money or resources.

‘This can really create barriers to leaving as you may fear you won’t be able to support yourself or your children if they leave the relationship. This is three ways hidden and manipulative.’

A number of social media users took to the post to share their own experiences with manipulative relationships

A number of Instagram users are commenting on the video and sharing their experiences with the behavior she mentioned.

One wrote: ‘Yes, those three ways sound way too familiar to me. Thank God I was eventually able to free myself, but the consequences of years of this and depraved behavior require a lot of work to move forward.”

Another added: ‘Wow. Totally felt this one. And like many other things in a narcissistic relationship, it’s only after the end that you think back to all those moments when you realized exactly what they did. The saddest thing of all is that I’m not always sure that they are even aware at the time that they are doing it, but not out of innocence, but because they are well trained in it.’

Meanwhile, a third simply said: ‘That’s how it was.’

Dr. Suglani regularly posts on Instagram where she addresses a number of mental health topics including relationships and others

One of the issues she regularly addresses is high-functioning anxiety (HFA), which she will soon write a book about and which is thought to affect around 20 percent of adults in Britain.

HFA is described as a condition in which “individuals appear outwardly competent and capable, while internally they silently battle intense worry, self-doubt, and fear of failure.”

It is believed that around 20 percent of adults in Britain suffer from high-functioning anxiety – a topic Dr. Suglani will soon write a book about it.

High-Functioning Anxiety A 5-Step Guide to Calming the Inner Panic and Thriving will be released on May 28th.

According to information about the tome, therein, Dr. Lalitaa’ shares her personal journey of self-discovery and growth, shedding light on high-functioning anxiety and offering readers a path to understanding and embracing their authentic selves.”

The book explores the root causes of HFA, as well as the science behind it, and the behaviors associated with it, through real-life case studies.

It also provides people with the condition with a “toolkit to manage fear, anxiety and self-doubt.”

The psychologist said of the book: “For those struggling with internal fears and self-doubt, let this book serve as a beacon of hope and a reminder that we are all inherently good enough, just as we are.”

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